What are the top bad habits to stop immediately or I'll regret big time later in life? by @DeanYeong
Answer by Dean Yeong:
There are tons of bad habits we should stop, but I personally think these are a few, if you’re doing them right now, you should stop them immediately:
- Stop talking before listening. We love to express our perspectives, thoughts, and opinion before we listen. Many arguments and misunderstandings and mistakes are avoidable if only we spend more time to listen.
- Stop complaining. Complaining changes nothing, it only makes you feel worse.
- Stop taking time for granted. You’re never too young, start doing what you need to do now. You’re old enough, start doing what you need to do now.
- Stop caring too much about other’s opinions. Opinions are cheap. Most people give an opinion based on their best interests but not yours. Ignore them.
- Stop comparing yourself with others. Comparing brings you nowhere, if you don’t have what someone else had, the fact is that you don’t have it (which you already knew it), dwelling on it won’t make anything better. Suck it up! Start competing.
- Stop spending mindlessly for instant gratification. Trust me, buying more stuff won’t make you happier. It gets you to the temporary state of delusional euphoria, but you will end up feeling worse later. When the false sense of happiness is gone, the money is not coming back either.
- Stop making decisions based on emotional cues. This applies to any emotions. It’s okay to celebrate when you’re happy and cry when you’re upset, but never make big decisions that will affect other areas of your life – financial, health, relationship – based on emotions, especially anger.
- Stop anything that is harmful to your body. Our body (health) is our time. When your body fail, your time’s up too. (I have to stress this: please STOP using your smartphone while driving!)
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To make this answer better, here are a few, if you’re not already doing them, start practicing them now:
- Start reading. Reading is like time-travelling – you live someone else’s life for many times, but you never die. Reading is like picking the brain – you learn ideas that took someone else 20 years to figure out in 20 minutes. (Psst: I summarize every book I read,.)
- Start meditating. Breathe, do nothing, focus, training yourself to be less reactive will be extremely helpful in this attention-demanding world.
- Start doing meaningful work. Do the work you love or love the work you do. Own your job/career/business/work and embrace the challenges ahead.
- Start working out, making better food choices, and sleeping more. These are optional. Do them if you want to buy some more time for yourself.
- Start contributing. Go beyond yourself, provide to your parents and your family, then go beyond that again, help others who need help. That’s win-win-win for everyone.
- Start taking tiny action toward your goals. Instant, big behavioral and lifestyle change is overrated, at the same time, damaging. Transforming your life doesn’t happen in a day or two, start takingevery single day to move toward your goals.
- Start saving. People (financial experts) sell idea via fears or desires, that’s why their advice are usually extreme – save! save! save! or spend! spend! spend! Saving is not penny-picking. Save for emergency, save for rainy days, and save for future investment.
- Start designing your environment. Be conscious with your living space, design your work place for productivity, and hang out with people who are better than you. Your environment is your platform, it’s either lift you up or drag you down.
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Finally, never stop learning, never stop smiling, never stop hustling.
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