What are the top bad habits to stop immediately or I’ll regret big time later in life?

What are the top bad habits to stop immediately or I'll regret big time later in life? by @DeanYeong

Answer by Dean Yeong:

There are tons of bad habits we should stop, but I personally think these are a few, if you’re doing them right now, you should stop them immediately:

  • Stop talking before listening. We love to express our perspectives, thoughts, and opinion before we listen. Many arguments and misunderstandings and mistakes are avoidable if only we spend more time to listen.
  • Stop complaining. Complaining changes nothing, it only makes you feel worse.
  • Stop taking time for granted. You’re never too young, start doing what you need to do now. You’re old enough, start doing what you need to do now.
  • Stop caring too much about other’s opinions. Opinions are cheap. Most people give an opinion based on their best interests but not yours. Ignore them.
  • Stop comparing yourself with others. Comparing brings you nowhere, if you don’t have what someone else had, the fact is that you don’t have it (which you already knew it), dwelling on it won’t make anything better. Suck it up! Start competing.
  • Stop spending mindlessly for instant gratification. Trust me, buying more stuff won’t make you happier. It gets you to the temporary state of delusional euphoria, but you will end up feeling worse later. When the false sense of happiness is gone, the money is not coming back either.
  • Stop making decisions based on emotional cues. This applies to any emotions. It’s okay to celebrate when you’re happy and cry when you’re upset, but never make big decisions that will affect other areas of your life – financial, health, relationship – based on emotions, especially anger.
  • Stop anything that is harmful to your body. Our body (health) is our time. When your body fail, your time’s up too. (I have to stress this: please STOP using your smartphone while driving!)

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To make this answer better, here are a few, if you’re not already doing them, start practicing them now:

  • Start reading. Reading is like time-travelling – you live someone else’s life for many times, but you never die. Reading is like picking the brain – you learn ideas that took someone else 20 years to figure out in 20 minutes. (Psst: I summarize every book I read, take a peek here.)
  • Start meditating. Breathe, do nothing, focus, training yourself to be less reactive will be extremely helpful in this attention-demanding world.
  • Start doing meaningful work. Do the work you love or love the work you do. Own your job/career/business/work and embrace the challenges ahead.
  • Start working out, making better food choices, and sleeping more. These are optional. Do them if you want to buy some more time for yourself.
  • Start contributing. Go beyond yourself, provide to your parents and your family, then go beyond that again, help others who need help. That’s win-win-win for everyone.
  • Start taking tiny action toward your goals. Instant, big behavioral and lifestyle change is overrated, at the same time, damaging. Transforming your life doesn’t happen in a day or two, start taking small, sustainable action every single day to move toward your goals.
  • Start saving. People (financial experts) sell idea via fears or desires, that’s why their advice are usually extreme – save! save! save! or spend! spend! spend! Saving is not penny-picking. Save for emergency, save for rainy days, and save for future investment.
  • Start designing your environment. Be conscious with your living space, design your work place for productivity, and hang out with people who are better than you. Your environment is your platform, it’s either lift you up or drag you down.

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Finally, never stop learning, never stop smiling, never stop hustling.

If you like to read more, I write about behavioral psychology and performance improvement in DeanYeong.com

What are the top bad habits to stop immediately or I'll regret big time later in life?

What is the most important life lesson you’ve learned so far?

When I was 13, I wanted a six pack. I did sit ups and curls intermittently with no plan or rigor. By 14, I’d given up

When I was 16, I picked up boxing, Muay Thai and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I wanted to be great at fighting. By 17, I’d decided in my head that great fighters have been doing this since they were 8, so I’d given up

When I was 18, I wrote blog posts and started multiple businesses, I’d take them to a level of significance but nothing actually significant. By 19, I’d decided in my head I wasn’t going to make 6 figures at it anytime soon, so I’d given up.

Everything I wanted to get or do or be, I gave it one year tops before giving it up. 

Now I look back and ask myself “Where would I be right now if I’d stuck with it? What if I’d had that foresight?

I work out every day now. 

I write every day now. 

I train to fight multiple times per week. 

I’m following the things I’ve wanted to do since I was a kid, because I now know the dividends I will get are going to have outstanding returns in 2 years, 5 years and 10 years from now. 

1% better a day doesn’t look like much in 30 days, but it transforms you completely over the course of years. 

The most important lesson I’ve learned in life is to play the long game. 

The you in the past wants you to do better than they did, and the you in the future wants you to be better than you are. Don’t let yourself down.
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What is the most important life lesson you’ve learned so far? by Jordan Allen https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-most-important-life-lesson-you%E2%80%99ve-learned-so-far/answer/Jordan-Allen-4?srid=bD0k&share=8c15e9c9

Future 🔮

I do not speak flowery words, nor am able to coat my straightforward words with honey like you do. I have been too objective and unemotional all my life and this isn’t treating me well. Ignorance is never a bliss. Applied knowledge then is power. I want to be powerful and mighty. I will be up there and be very successful with pride and honour.

Heck, these words spent even seems coherent.  What thinking too much and worries does to me. 

Conducive Cafes (in Singapore) to Work At

think ill try out Shots. Annsiang Hill is veryyyyy new office. good choice. but lack off power plugs? awwwwwww.

peregrinate

There are days where we simply want to take our workbench elsewhere. Away from home, away from the office. That applies to me on most days. The problem with taking work out is that we need a conducive work environment and constant supply of caffeine. I often look for cafés to work at but there are some considerations I take into account before I decide if it is a conducive cafe to work at.

1. WIFI

Having slow Wifi or no Wifi at all is simply a #firstworldwoe, but let’s face it, it’s the first thing we think of, and some of us have experience hitting the limit of 3G usage (there goes the personal hotspot option).

2. Ample power sockets to charge our devices

If we’re working on our laptops, and judging on how crappy the battery lives are for our electronic devices these days, power sockets are important…

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Cafes in Singapore sorted by location.

This is good. Shall keep this to find places to hide to do calling, maybe.

joey asher | misunderstoodsunshinekid

To facilitate my cafe-hunting adventures with the missus, I’ve consolidated the names and addresses of existing cafes in Singapore and created an easily-accessible directory of cafes in Singapore grouped by locality. So thanks to referencing excellent food websites like ladyironchef and burpple, I am able to share this categorised list with you. Do let me know if there are any cafes I should be including or excluding. Hope you find this helpful! (:

Holland Village/Buona Vista

  1. Jimmy Monkey Cafe @ 9 one-north Gateway #01-51 (one-north residences) | C/D/F/$6-$18/$5
  2. Revolution Coffee @ 21 Media Circle #01-03A | CD
  3. Artisan Boulangerie @ 9 North Buona Vista Drive #01-12 (The Metropolis)
  4. Jamaica Blue @ 1 Vista Exchange Green #01-32 (The Star Vista) | CDF
  5. 93°C Bean & Leaf @ 8 Lorong Mambong | CD
  6. MU Parlour @ 16A Lorong Mambong
  7. Craft Bakery & Cafe @ 24A Lorong Mambong | CDF
  8. Hatched @ 267 Holland Avenue |…

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POV ;Healing in Action Dec 2013

I took back a very significant lesson.
I’ve found my start to the never ending patterns that’s occurring in my life in my relationship between my family and this is blocking me from reaching success. I’ve put in the hard work that i could have possibly done, but no results.

Now that I’m aware of it, I am going to make a change.
To break out of this cycle, to heal myself, so that I can succeed.

Being aware is only the 1st step.
Give blessings, once you’re aware that you’re giving hatred, anger, sadness to anything or anyone.
Stop and be calm and bless the people, things, or even yourself.